Wednesday 15 April 2015

Sequels, Second-Times and ‘You Can’t Wear White Again, Can You?!’

Once upon a time, there was a Princess who lived in a city not unlike the one we’re in now. Life could be happy (summer vacations) and life could be difficult (hitting puberty); it was a daily adventure filled with risk (high school fashion) and angst (her crush had his very own crush.. on her best friend) and there were nights spent  dissecting the latest hallway drama, glances or accidental/non-accidental meetings with a potential or former McDreamy/McNightmare.  But through all the trials and tribulations, she always dreamed of the day she would meet her Prince, and imagined just how perfect her wedding to said Prince would be.  Her mind’s eye saw everything in vivid detail -  the ultra-romantic engagement and the way her Princess-cut ring looked on her finger; her strapless bodice and tulle-skirted dream dress and shoes that she would dazzle everyone with when she walked down the aisle, the bridesmaids in their perfect dresses and bouquets; and of course, a fairytale reception filled with magic, romance and memories to last a lifetime.
After what felt like an eternity, her Prince did find her, true to her expectations and everything she wished for came to pass….and they lived happily ever after.
They were divorced six years later.
Sometimes happy endings  don’t happen right away. Statistics show that roughly a third of all marriages end in divorce. But partnerships aren’t  a  dying concept; some of us are just taking an alternate route to our happily ever after.  And if the right person comes along after some serious recovery and soul-searching and field-experience (hey, it’s scientific, there could be some research that brave and intrepid folks have to embark on)  that renews our faith in wedding bliss – there feels like a lot of rough waters to navigate if a wedding is on the horizon.  Can we do the same things the second time around, like the showers and Bachelorette nights?  Can we have a walk down the aisle that is fresh and new when it’s a re-do? And is a white dress off the table?
Bridal Guide has a great article that answers a lot of second wedding questions and concerns:
There’s no reason why a first wedding should be anyone’s only wedding, and everything else pales in comparison or should be downplayed; every bride deserves to have the day she wants,  whether it’s her first or ninth (I’m looking at you,  Zsa Zsa Gabor!)  And no matter what anyone tells us, sequels are a beautiful chapter in the continuing story of us and should be respected as such!
Wishing you a day as limitless as you are~
Lisa and April

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